50 or 80-minute sessions · Virtual across Ontario
Our relationships can hold some of our greatest joys and some of our most difficult experiences.
People come to couples therapy for many reasons. Sometimes there is conflict that feels impossible to move through. Sometimes there is distance, disconnection, or a sense that something important has been lost. Other times, things are mostly okay, but there is a feeling that the relationship could feel more alive, more secure, or more like a place to come home to.
What draws me to couples work is not only helping repair what feels difficult, but witnessing what becomes possible when two people become more able to understand themselves, understand each other, and create something new together.
Together, we work towards understanding the deeper dynamics that shape your relationship: the emotions underneath the conflict, the needs driving the arguments, the ways you've each learned to protect yourselves, and the fears that get activated when connection feels threatened.
We pay attention not only to what happens at home, but also to what happens between us in the room. Conflict in session is often useful: it gives us a chance to slow things down, to understand what's happening in real time, and to create new experiences: of being heard, of feeling safe enough to be vulnerable, of reconnecting after a difficult moment.
The relationship itself becomes information. The way you speak to each other. When one of you withdraws or escalates. What each of you tends to feel and need when things get difficult. What makes it hard to reach for each other and what makes it possible.
Over time, the goal is for both of you to understand each other more fully — not just the surface behaviors, but the histories, the fears, the needs, and the longings that live underneath them. When that understanding deepens, something often shifts: arguments that once felt like attacks begin to feel more like moments of disconnection; defensiveness softens when partners feel heard; walls come down slowly, and the possibility of genuine closeness begins to open up again.
I draw primarily from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a well-researched approach that focuses on the emotional bonds and attachment patterns that shape close relationships. I also integrate elements from other relational, attachment-based, and somatic approaches.
At the heart of this work is something I care about deeply: helping people build relationships with each other, and with themselves, that can hold more honesty, intimacy, and care.
Couples therapy can be helpful for couples at many different points. Whether your relationship feels acutely painful or simply stuck, whether you have a specific concern or just a sense that something could be better — couples therapy offers space to understand each other more fully, to interrupt patterns that have become entrenched, and to move toward the kind of connection you are hoping for.
If you're unsure whether couples therapy is a good fit, a free 15-minute consultation is a good place to start.
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