50 or 80-minute sessions · Virtual across Ontario
Relationships ask things of us. They can bring us face to face with old ways of protecting ourselves, places where we feel stuck, and parts of ourselves we have not fully seen.
Some couples come feeling caught in painful patterns, having the same conversations without finding a way forward, or wondering how they became so disconnected from each other. Others come because things are mostly okay, but they want to feel closer, communicate differently, navigate change together, or create a relationship that feels more intentional, alive, and supportive.
Relationships can be places not only of connection, but of growth, healing, and discovering parts of ourselves we may not have found alone. Being deeply known by another person can help us know ourselves differently. When we learn how to approach each other with curiosity and compassion, even in the most difficult moments, old protections can soften, and experiences of connection, care, and acceptance can make it feel safer to become more fully ourselves. Love is not fixed, and relationships can become places where we continue learning how to love ourselves and each other in ways we may not have been taught.
Together, we work toward understanding the deeper dynamics shaping your relationship: the emotions underneath conflict, the needs underneath arguments, the ways you have each learned to protect yourselves, and the fears that emerge when connection feels threatened.
In couples work, we are often paying attention to three relationships at once.
There's the relationship each person has with themselves, and the one you create together. Much of the work is learning how all three shape and respond to one another, and tending to the conditions that allow each one to grow.
We pay attention not only to what happens at home, but also to what happens between us in the room. Moments of conflict, distance, misunderstanding, or repair become opportunities to slow things down and understand what is happening in real time. Therapy becomes a place to practice something different: reaching instead of withdrawing, staying present instead of protecting, repairing instead of repeating.
Over time, the goal is to help both of you understand yourselves and each other more fully, and to create a relationship that can stay open and connected, even in difficult moments.
I draw primarily from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a well-researched approach focused on emotional bonds and attachment patterns. I also integrate elements from relational, attachment-based, and somatic approaches.
Couples therapy can be helpful at many different stages of a relationship. Some couples come feeling disconnected, caught in painful patterns, or stuck having the same conversations without finding a way forward. Others come because their relationship is generally strong, but they want to communicate differently, feel closer, reconnect with parts of themselves or each other, or be more intentional about how they grow together.
Sometimes the challenge is happening within the relationship. Other times, couples are facing something together: becoming parents, navigating grief, or adjusting to a major life transition.
Whatever brings you here, couples therapy offers space to slow down, to understand yourselves and each other more fully, and to find new ways of relating that feel more honest, close, and alive.
If you're unsure whether couples therapy is a good fit, a free 15-minute consultation is a good place to start.
This is not an exhaustive list. If you're unsure whether what you're navigating fits, please reach out.